We’ve all heard the advice not to buy trouble. But we should also be prepared for certain eventualities. Some days, certain activities are just like… doing your taxes or going to the dentist. A hassle, an aggravation, frustrating – and so on. But sometimes we expect something to go wrong and so we start to work ourselves up, just ready. Going to get your license renewed, for instance. Encountering certain people at work, perhaps. Waiting in line just about anywhere for anything. (I’m not an early adopter so I really don’t get the folks that stand in line, sometimes for days for the latest release of any technical item – don’t ever tell me you hate to wait in line.)
Back to hassle anticipation – could we possibly experience the hassle just because we became so certain that we would have one that we somehow brought it on? I’ve certainly watched it happen to others – someone ahead of you in line is giving off that vibe by fidgeting, sighing, or other cues gets up to the counter and their voice has that edge right off the bat. I imagine that I have probably done it too, though no example comes to mind as I type.
We are bound by rules almost everywhere we go – the employee handbook at work, bank rules, insurance rules, school rules – piling up in front of us and blocking us from just getting the simplest thing on our to-do list done. (Well such-and-such isn’t going to happen today because I forgot to bring that stupid form with me.) It is such a hassle, why are there so many rules?
We know on one level that we need the rules to create structure and protection for certain rights, but do we need so many? (The answer to that is probably not, a lot of rules are around just for the sake of rules or to benefit the institution over the individual…)
Back to anticipating the hassle, logically we are just in knowing that these established steps and rules can make things go slowly so why do we not allot enough time to accommodate this awareness? I’ll just be a minute at the bank at noon on a Friday – sure. Why is the doctor running late at 4pm, I have to get my daughter to dance class you know?
We are mad at the system, the institution for making our quick task or errand drag on and put us farther behind for the next one. On top of it, we knew this would be a hassle, so we waited to the last possible minute to do this thing so it isn’t like we can come back later – how dare they?
How dare they indeed. Do you have any stories about hassle anticipation?
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