I’ve told anyone who is interested that I have been a reforming perfectionist for the last decade or so. I say reforming because there is no end, no reformed and never a concern again. Perfectionism is a mindset that is powerful and pervasive. And not in my best interest.
Perfectionism is constantly on the lookout for all of the things that you did wrong or said wrong, not necessarily to improve upon them but often just to highlight your imperfection. Reforming perfectionism is constantly on the lookout for ways to improve what you have said or done and therefore helpful. As in ‘yep, I forgot that breathe and take one more look step before I sent out that email so I missed the attachment’. I will work harder to make this a step every time in the future.
We are human and therefore have flaws; but also capable of learning and improving. Perhaps perfectionism has been more of a friend to you than it has been for me. I am happy for you, but have found more perfectionists that have been hampered by this trait, similarly to what it has done to me in the past (and currently when I am not vigilant). What parts of perfection are worthy, and which should be discarded or ignored? Where does a quest to be better turn into self-imposed disappointment? We each must find these answers in our own time and way.
I have found reforming perfectionism to be more open, perfection is terribly rigid. Rigid doesn’t allow one opportunity in a fast changing environment. Rigid perfection creates a lot of negative energy, and there is already too much of that out and about; improvement is fluid and adjustable and positive.
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